Published: 22nd March 2021

Five films that explore transgender experiences for families to watch together

Parents - and young people - tell us that films can be a good springboard for starting conversations.

We’ve picked five films for people who want to explore transgender experiences with their families, or educate themselves about trans rights and trans people’s journeys. We’ve partnered with All About Trans, a project by charity On Road Media, to bring you this resource, who work positively to change how the media understands and portrays transgender people.

While these films do touch on challenging themes, like transphobia, discrimination and bullying, they do not condone these attitudes, and these scenes are handled sensitively.  If you want to carry on the conversation when the credits roll, we’ve also put together some suggested discussion points. 

We’ve picked one PG rated film that we think would be good to watch as a whole family. PG rated films are suitable for children around the age of 8. Two films are rated 12, so we think they’re suitable for early teens. We’ve also chosen two 15 rated films, for older teens interested in this topic and for people who want to learn more.

These films are just a starting point. If you’re feeling inspired and would like to continue your journey and find out more about the trans community and keep on learning, then then take a look at BBC Bitesize’s videos on understanding sexual and gender identities and check out Gendered Intelligence

If you need support or want to talk to someone about what you’re going through, then both Mermaids and The Proud Trust provide useful resources and can open the door to services. 

Little Girl

Upsetting scenes, references to discrimination

Little Girl is a French documentary concerning a child who is diagnosed with gender dysphoria.

The theme of gender dysphoria is handled sensitively and responsibly, and reported incidents of discrimination and transphobia are clearly disapproved of. The film contains a scene in which a woman refers to a miscarriage; however, the references are brief and undetailed.

In one scene, Sasha and her mother visit a child psychiatrist and during her consultation Sasha becomes visibly distressed and cries, explaining that she is upset because some girls at her school do not seem to accept her gender identity. In another scene with the child psychiatrist, Sasha's mother explains how angry she felt after Sasha's female ballet teacher showed transphobic behaviour by refusing to allow her to attend a ballet class whilst wearing female clothes. Sasha's mother also states that she found Sasha crying in despair after this incident. There is also a scene in which Sasha's mother speculates that Sasha will encounter insults, threats and the risk of beatings as she grows up.

  • Did you enjoy the film? How did it make you feel? Were there any bits of Sacha’s story that you didn’t like? Did you learn anything, if so what? 

  • Do you agree with the BBFC age rating? Would you add or remove anything in the ratings info? Is it helpful to know about what is in a film before you watch it?

  • What examples of discrimination and bullying are there in the film? How does Sacha and her family deal with this? How do Sacha’s parents and siblings support her?

  • Sascha has very supportive parents, who get her the help she needs. Why is it important that people feel loved and supported when they're going through difficult things?

  • Most of the children in Sasha’s life accept her without question. Why do you think this is? Why do you think it’s more difficult for adults to understand? What examples in the film can you see where children accept her without judgment? 

  • Even though Sascha encounters challenges at school, her parents encourage her journey to her true self. Why is that important? How do the family come together to support Sascha? What do you think the school could have done differently? How does Sacha’s doctor also support her? 

  • Why do you think it is important for people to learn about trans people, and educate themselves? What can you do to show trans people you support them? 

A Kid Like Jake

Infrequent strong language

 A Kid Like Jake is a drama in which parents deal with their young child exploring their gender identity.

Language

There is infrequent strong language ('f**k'), as well as milder terms (for example, 'piss', 'shit', 'bullshit', 'crap', 'asshole', 'damn', 'Jesus', 'God').

 In one scene it is implied that a woman has suffered a miscarriage; however, there is no detail.

The film also deals with parents coming to terms with their young child's gender identity issues; however, this theme is sensitively handled.

  • Did you enjoy the film? How did it make you feel? Were there any bits of the story that you didn’t like? Did you learn anything, if so what? 

  • Do you agree with the BBFC age rating? Would you add or remove anything in the ratings info? Is it helpful to know about what is in a film before you watch it?

  • A Kid Like Jake is a comedy-drama, how does the film use humour to navigate sensitive topics?

  • Jake likes activities that are traditionally seen as for girls, like dancing. Do you think it matters what you do as a boy or a girl? Why? What are your favourite things to do?

  • Jake's and his mother love reading fairy tales together, but this causes an argument among the family after Jake wants to dress as Rapunzel for Halloween. Do you think the stories have an affect on Jake’s behaviour and the way they express themselves? Why do you think Jake likes the princesses in the stories?  What stories did you like reading when you were a child?

  • What challenges does starting pre-school present? Do you think the parents react in the right way? How do you think they could be more supportive? 

  • How do Jake’s parents and teachers try to do their best? Do you think they are doing a good job? Why?

  • What examples can you see in the film where Jake is supported by the adults in his life?

Ma Vie en Rose

​​​​​​​Ma Vie en Rose is a French language drama, subtitled in English, about a young child who is exploring their gender identity. Told from a child’s perspective, the film explores their family’s discomfort, and people’s lack of understanding and tolerance of young Ludovic’s ideas of gender and identity. 

At one point in the film there is a single use of strong language, the term ‘p***k’. The discriminatory term ‘bent’ is occasionally used by Ludovic’s classmates, but the film’s theme of transgender and gender issues is handled sensitively and responsibly throughout. Other language is more moderate, with uses of ‘bloody’ and ‘shits’.

The language used is sometimes aggressive in tone, with a sense of menace and threat in the family home, as Ludovic’s determination causes real problems for the family with their employers and neighbours, and at school. There is a growing sense of frustration and anger from their parents. In one scene their father, unable to understand and come to terms with the situation, pushes his wife over the couch and later raises his fist to her. However, the tone is occasionally lightened by some elements of fantasy, such as the appearances of a life-sized Monde De Pam (Pam being the equivalent of Barbie), who acts as a type of fairy godmother to Ludovic.

  • Did you enjoy the film? How did it make you feel? Were there any bits of the story that you didn’t like? Did you learn anything, if so what? 

  • Do you agree with the BBFC age rating? Would you add or remove anything in the ratings info? Is it helpful to know about what is in a film before you watch it?

  • At the beginning of the film, Ludo’s family think that their gender identity is a passing phase. At what point do they realise Ludo serious? What do you think makes Ludo realise they want to explore their gender? How does Ludo express their gender?

  • After the family moves towns, Ludo makes a friend, Chris; a child who feels similarly to Ludo and is going through similar things. What do they have in common? What differences do they have? How do they share experiences and confide in each other? 

  • Pam acts as a fairy godmother to Ludo. How does she protect Ludo? What examples can we see in the film where she supports Ludo? Why is her character so important?

  • What challenges does the family face? How do they find a solution together? At what point do they start to accept Ludo? How do you think they could have supported Ludo better?

We’ve also picked two 15 rated films which we think are more suitable to watch with your older teens or on your own to educate yourself. Since both of these films are documentaries, people talk about transphobia and their real life experiences, but these topics are handled sensitively.

If you’d like to find out more about what the films contain before you watch them, then check out the ratings info. 

Disclosure

Sexual violence, sex, language, sexual threat, discrimination theme, violence

In this documentary, leading trans creatives and thinkers share heartfelt perspectives and analysis about Hollywood's impact on the trans community.

  • How did the documentary make you feel? Were there any bits that you didn’t like? Did you learn anything, if so what? 

  • Do you agree with the BBFC age rating? Would you add or remove anything in the ratings info? Is it helpful to know about what is in a piece of content before you watch it?

  • Disclosure begins by celebrating trans representation in popular culture with Alexandra Billings saying “you never know what those positive images do for other people”. Why do you think it’s important to have positive trans visibility in mainstream media? What other examples can you think of?

  • The documentary shows the ways transgender representation is often insidious or played for ‘comedic effect’, drawing on damaging stereotypes. What impact do you think that this has on people’s perspectives of trans identities? What can we do to combat this issue and support the trans community? 

  • There are some hard-hitting scenes of transphobia and discrimination from mainstream media in Disclosure. How did these scenes make you feel? Was it important that you looked at, or re-visited, these scenes through the perspective of trans voices? Do you think it’s important that these scenes are shown and discussed by the cast? 

  • What impact do you think first hand accounts have in Disclosure? Was it helpful to hear from a diverse group of trans people about their experiences? Could you relate to any of their experiences? 

  • What steps do you think the entertainment industry needs to make to encourage inclusivity? Why is it important that people can relate to characters on film and TV? How does it promote and encourage people on their own journeys?

Seahorse – The Dad Who Gave Birth

strong language

Seahorse – The Dad Who Gave Birth is a documentary about a man's quest to give birth and start a family.

Language

There is strong language ('f**k'), as well as milder terms ('shit', 'queer', 'dammit', 'bloody').

There are transphobic references that are not endorsed within the film as a whole. There is a birthing scene which features bloody detail and full natural nudity. One person asks a medical professional if having an orgasm is likely to help him conceive.

  • Did you enjoy the film? How did it make you feel? Were there any bits of the story that you didn’t like? Did you learn anything, if so what? 

  • Do you agree with the BBFC age rating? Would you add or remove anything in the ratings info? Is it helpful to know about what is in a film before you watch it?

  • How does Freddy’s pregnancy and changing body complicate the journey he’s been on with his transition? How does the film portray these two topics? How does Freddy continue to remain true to himself throughout the pregnancy? 

  • Freddy talks about having a ‘hardwired need’ to have a family. How does the film explore this topic? Have you ever thought about whether you want a family in the future? Is it important to think about the future and how you might feel?

  • How does the film show that uncommon things are not abnormal?

  • Are there any scenes you found challenging to watch? Why? Which scenes did you find uplifting and positive? Why? 

  • How does the filmmaker show that Freddy is just like everyone else? What scenes in particular draw out this theme? How does the film focus on small, mundane tasks to show this – like drawing a bath, or having lunch? 

  • How can you be an ally to trans people? 

Find out where you can stream, rent or buy these films through our collection on FindAnyFilm. You can also watch Seahorse – The Dad Who Gave Birth online.